For some people, divorce is the means to a passage into
the rest of a life that they have been waiting to live;
for others, it can be a very emotional and trying time.
If children are involved, a divorce will change the terms
of the relationship that you have with your then previous
spouse.
Often times, people ask themselves, if not others, if the
emotional roller coaster is normal. From all accounts of
the many years that Attorney Kathleen Reiley has helped
people proceed through a divorce, the answer is yes - feeling
that you are on a roller coaster ride is as normal as feeling
that you are regaining control of your life. But the path
that clients of Attorney Kathleen Reiley say they found
in working with her is one of clarity and growth.
For those of you who feel that you are lost somewhere between
denial and acceptance, it may help to know that psychologist
have written volumes about the emotions of divorce and their
impact upon a person's life being very similar to the grief
experienced when one looses a loved one. A roller coaster
ride of emotions is absolutely normal.
For many years, psychology journals have identified five
stages that may be felt independently, simultaneously, or
sequentially. According to those white papers, in the beginning,
people are often in denial. Feelings of isolation are often
overcome by anger.
When the anger subsides, people begin to bargain, sometimes
for the things they want from the relationship, and other
times for the relationship to continue.
As others become aware of the fact that a couple is divorcing,
they tend to take sides, which can bring about feelings
of depression or anxiety.
As the process ends, acceptance begins, and then too a
life of new friends or activities replaces the past.
It is impossible to describe here the exact prescription
that Attorney
Kathleen Reiley writes into each petition for divorce
because no two divorces or parties to a divorce are the
same, but it appears that her clients get their sense of
humor back in the property settlement.
